How to make your make up last all day in summer: my tips

Hi, my dear and beautiful women!

Today I wanted to write about a very interesting issue: about some tips to make your make up last longer in hot and humid summer climate. I love make up and for my job I always need to have my face in order as often I work on runways, I meet my clients, I have various appointments in the city centre. Sometimes in the middle of the day I can go to the gym, so I need to have my make up resistant to everything: humidity, hot temperatures, water, sweat etc.

So here I will give you just some general tips that can be useful for everyday life or if you have a special occasion!

Tips to make your make up last all day in summer

First of all to make our make up long-lasting we need to use waterproof products. Use hydrating creams which are lighter and can be a perfect make up base (Biotherm creams are a good option as they are like gel). All pencils for eyes and eyebrows must be waterproof (Aqua Lip or Aqua Brow by Make Up Forever, for example) as well as mascara; but for those who doesn’t like waterproof mascaras there are many that are long-lasting and that you can remove only with hot water (Clinique Lash Powder, Bareminerals Lash Domination, Mac Extended Play Lash).

It’s very important to use a high quality foundation with SPF filters that protects your skin from the sun and lasts all day (my favourite one is Teint Miracle by Lancome).
If you don’t use any primer your eyeshadow won’t last as the skin on eyelids is very greasy; so if you want a perfect eyeshadow it’s better you use a good primer before (I use Urban Decay), translucent powder that mattifies well, especially the T-zone: for me the best is Prep+Prime by Mac.

Last but not least, set your make up with a thermal water (Avene is my favourite) or a setting spray (Fix + by Mac or All Nighter by Urban Decay) to make your make up last longer: you can spray it all day on your face. A good idea is also to apply some powder on the T-zone.

Another important tip is not to touch your face with your hands all the time: remember that you have your make up on! We can melt our make up touching it all the time.

Hope these tips can be helpful to make your make up look flawless even in hot and humid summer days!

Have A great and beautiful summer!

Make up and hair for a Russian destination wedding in Rome and Gaeta

I love couples who choose destination weddings: usually they are the most happy couples I've ever seen as they escape to have fun and enjoy themselves travelling around the world.

The beautiful wedding of this young couple was organised by Polina e Dario: Polina is a model, so I simply had to enhance her natural beauty. She chose a beautiful vintage style with eyeliner and red lips; for her fair skin I chose a flawless radiant look, for her beautiful eyes a winged eyeliner, a lot of single false eyelashes and matte red lipstick by Mac.

They had a beautiful pre-wedding photo shoot in Castelli Romani area, not so far from Rome, where there are a lot of ancient villas, vineyards and greenery. Then they left for Gaeta, a beautiful Italian town by the seaside.

So many different landscapes, emotions and colours in one trip just for the two of them, without stress and rush… a dreamy wedding!

Semi-permanent eyebrow (brow tattoo): what to pay attention to!

Hi, gorgeous ladies!

I’d like to dedicate this article to one of the vital issues: semi-permanent eyebrows tattoo. I’m writing only about the things I’ve practiced on myself, that is why this is my real experience: I’d love that someone could learn something from it.

Everybody knows that eyebrows are very important for one’s face expressivity. Let’s see how the shape of eyebrows changed in history from ancient civilizations until today.

Eyebrows in Ancient Egypt

As depicted on the bust of Queen Nefertiti, Ancient Egyptian women sported arched brows darkened with powders made from minerals. Greek historian Herodotus documented that when a cat died in a home, everyone who lived there would shave their eyebrows in mourning. When a dog died, everyone in the house would shave their whole body as well as their head.

Eyebrows in Ancient Greece and Rome

 The ancient Greek people valued purity, so women often left their brows untouched or darkened slightly with black powder. In both cultures, unibrows were prized as beautiful, desirable features worn by the most intelligent and lusted-after women. If one didn’t have a unibrow, they would create one with black paint.

Eyebrows The Middle Ages

The forehead was the most important feature of the medieval period, which is why women often removed their eyelashes and eyebrows. Later in the 15th century, Queen Elizabeth’s reddish blonde (these days we’d call it strawberry blonde) inspired many women in her country to dye their hair and brows in similar reddish shades.

Eyebrows in Victorian Era

Women who wore obvious makeup were frowned upon in this era and thought of as prostitutes, which is why ladies of breeding left their brows quite bushy and untamed.

Eyebrows in 1920-1930

As seen on silent movie starlets like Clara Bow, women wore their eyebrows extremely thin and straight by way of extensive plucking, lending to a dramatic, pensive look. They also used petroleum jelly or Vaseline to groom and add shine and emphasis to slender brows. The ’20s were the first era in which regular women began to cull inspiration from celebrities and entertainers, which has continued into today.


Women continued to wear dark, shiny and severely tweezed brows, but rather than sport straight lines, they favored dramatic high, rounded arches, which sometimes extended all the way to the temple. Jean Harlow‘s thin, curved brow defined the era.


A softer, more natural look came into popularity in the ’40s, with movie stars like Lauren Bacall bringing heavier, prominently arched brows into vogue as regular women followed suit. The Old Hollywood red carpet looks we see today are heavily inspired by the thick, well-groomed brows and cherry red lips of this era.


Think Audrey Hepburn, Marilyn Monroe, and Elizabeth Taylor—the celebrities of this time sported thick, dark brows that were often penciled in to achieve a bolder, more enhanced look. They retained similar arched shapes to the brows of the ’40s, but the effect was stronger and more pronounced as the defining feature of the face.


Sophia Loren had the most storied brows of the decade, and for good reason: she shaved them off entirely, then would painstakingly pencil them back in using super-short, precise strokes. Audrey Hepburn‘s straight, natural brows remained popular, while art scene “It” girl Edie Sedgwick blackened hers to contrast her platinum hair for a serious statement look.


A handful of brow looks were favored during this time, including thicker, more natural brows as worn by the hippies of the decade and the thinner, more pronounced arches worn by disco enthusiasts. Actresses like Lauren Hutton popularized natural, “fresh-faced” beauty looks, and eyebrow trends followed suit, with many women setting aside their tweezers.


Bushy brows were the ticket to ’80s glamour, with Brooke Shields as the cover girl du jour. Thick, ungroomed “caterpillar” brows were all the rage, and a heavy, almost disheveled look was desirable and emulated with the help of brow pencils and powders.


Anyone who came of age in the ’90s will remember it well: super-thin, over-tweezed brows ran rampant this decade, with stars like Drew Barrymore and Pamela Anderson rocking teeny-tiny arches that often resulted in a perpetually shocked-looking expression. The ’90s were not a good decade for eyebrows.


The early aughties held onto the past decade’s thin brows, but we’ve since gone the opposite way of over-plucking, instead favoring thick, lush looks and natural arches.
Cara Delevingne‘s beloved brows dominate the catwalk, with everyone from celebrities to regular people using pencils, waxes, powders, gels, and more to emulate the bold, dark, statement brow effect.

My experience with semi-permanent eyebrows tattoo

So, during ’90s, which were not a good decade for eyebrows, as everybody I over-plucked my eyebrows. I think constant hair removal weakens the hair bulbs and I’ve seen it happens often with blond-haired people. So my eyebrows were very thin and didn’t grow.

When I started my career of  make up artist, once our teacher in make up academy told me that my thin eyebrows didn’t suit my face shape at all. Before she told me that, I’d never thought about it before. In fact my face shape is square and my eyebrows were very think and angled. So, from that moment on, I started to make my eyebrows soften in shape and larger. Surely, I like it better.

There were not so many eyebrows products at that time, especially waterproof,  so in summer or in the gym it was a disaster. Then I found out waterproof products for eyebrows of make up forever Acqua Brow and then Mac, and lately a waterproof eyeliner by Kat Von D, so I became a real specialist in eyebrow shape and I can do it with my eyes closed, but this everyday routine was a bit tiring.

Finally, all those semi-permanent technique of make up appeared and were getting more and more popular, so I started to have an idea to do my eyebrows.

So, I started to see different professionals, their portfolios, photos before and after, I’ve been thinking over for a lot of time, and I decided. The person where I did my first eyebrow tattoo previously was a make up artist, so I thought its more secure as she understands the shape well.

Here I would like to emphasize: the trick here is that almost no one shows you the sequence of photos of the same person before, after the tattoo treatment, after 2 weeks and after 1 month when they get healed. You see only before and after. That was my mistake. I got attracted by the photos after the treatment, so I didn’t like my final result. I couldn’t come after one month to do the correction of colour, so let’s say I decided to do it again with the same person.

I explained what I wanted, showed all my photos how I do my eyebrows, so we did it again. Let’s say it’s not a very pleasant feeling when they do a tattoo on your face. Anyway, after one month I went again to do a correction, and again I didn’t like the final result: the thin shape, the colour that almost faded away after one month. So I continue to draw my eyebrows at least: I’m satisfied with my shape and it suits my face shape. Surely when I ever decide to do it again, I will do a thorough study of a professional and I will ask for the photos of the clients after one month from the treatment!

Learn how to get the perfect eyebrow shape

Very few of us are born with completely symmetrical faces, which is why the size, shape and position of our features can vary ever so slightly. And when it comes to our eyebrows, one may grow perfectly, arching at just the right point, whereas the other may be sparser and just not play ball regardless of how much tweezing and makeup we apply. So that’s why we go to professionals who can tell us how to get perfect the eyebrow shape.

So how to get perfect eyebrow shape? There are various techniques and the professional you choose must inform what is best for you.

how to shape eyebrows: tips & Techniques

Powdery filled technique:  
The “powdery filled” technique involves a filling in or thickening of areas that already have eyebrow hair present with a soft or darker color which varies in transparency. As opposed to creating hairline strokes from scratch to cover bald or thin areas, the powdery filled technique is best for those simply wanting shaping or just an enhancement.

Soft hair stroke technique:
The soft hair stroke method is ideal for those who have very little to no eyebrow hair to begin with. Very fine hairline strokes are created to visually replicate individual natural hairs as opposed to a “block” of solid ink.

Feathering technique:
This is basically a combination of the shading and hair stroke techniques, whereby strokes are made closer to one another other creating a shaded dimensional appearance.

Ombre technique
The Ombre brow comes from using two different brow colors, one lighter than the other. It is more natural looking than solid colour and is the latest craze in eyebrow semi-permanent make up.

The term ‘Ombre’ is from the French word meaning “shaded” or “shading”. Ombre hair colour is generally darker at the roots through the mid-shaft and then gradually gets lighter from the mid-shaft to the ends. For eyebrows the reverse is true: the colour is lightest at the thinnest part of the eyebrow and gets darker to the end.

These techniques require particular skill and precision from your brow expert to make your eyebrows look natural, so make sure to do your research on your brow experts ability before committing, no matter what cost it’s provided to you at, as we have seen some bad brows over the years, some that we couldn’t even help correct.


How do you know what shape semi-permanent eyebrow makeup will suit your face?

During your consultation with the chosen professional, you’ll discuss the look you want to achieve and she’ll design permanent makeup eyebrows to suit your face in a colour that complements your skin tone.

But to give you a heads up on what shape semi-permanent eyebrow make up will suit your face the best, we’ve put together a simple step by step guide.


Step 1: identify your face shape

In order to determine the best shape eyebrow to suit your face, you need to take the shape of your face into consideration. Face shapes are generally oval, long, round, square, heart or diamond shaped.

Depending on your face shape, eyebrows can do many things from shorten and elongate the face, to balance and soften angular features and even add drama. 

Step 2: determine which eyebrow shape suits your face shape

Choosing the right eyebrow shape can enhance your face shape by accentuating your eyes, opening up the eye area to give a more youthful appearance and even add definition to your cheekbones.

Oval face
If you have an oval face, opt for a soft angled eyebrow that starts at the bridge of the nose and goes up into a gentle curve, before dropping down to extend slightly beyond the outer corner of the eye.

Long face
Choose more of a flat, horizontal eyebrow with an extended brow tail if you have a long face as it will help to shorten the face and balance your features.

Round face
Round faces suit eyebrows with a pronounced vertical arch to add length to the face and to stop it looking so round. A soft angled eyebrow also works well with this face shape too.

Square face
Natural eyebrows with soft arch work well with square faces. Opt for curved eyebrows to soften the jawline.

Heart face
Eyebrows with either a pronounced arch or a rounded, low arch will accentuate heart shaped faces and balance out a delicate jawline.

Diamond face
diamond faces suit both round and curved shaped eyebrows as they help to soften the angular shape of the face.

How to find a good permanent makeup artist - according to the British Association Of Beauty Therapy & Cosmetology (BABTAC).

• Take a look at your therapist's portfolio to gauge their experience (pay attention to the photos before, after the treatment and after one month when they are healed). Choose therapists with a lot years’ of experience. They are more skilled in face shapes, eyebrow shapes, how the skin reacts and allergy reactions.

• Social media makes it easier than ever to read client reviews, so do your research

• Check out your therapist's training, which should be accredited by either an awarding organization or an official association such as BABTAC.

• Make sure your therapist has specialist treatment-risk insurance to cover you both.

• Before booking, ask the therapist to show you around the clinic so you can check it's clean and hygienic.

• A good therapist will be able to prove that the machine being used in the treatment has a CE mark, and the pigment follows the EU safety regulations.

• Some councils require therapists to have a special treatment license. If yours does, ask to see a copy.

• Be wary if the price seems unusually cheap. This is an invasive treatment and it should cost a reasonable sum.

Hope to have been helpful to those who have the same problem. Think a lot before choosing treatments that regards our face, it’s our responsibility to choose the right people to ensure best results and be healthy and beautiful! 

Source: Stylecaster 

Sue & Alket’s destination wedding in Sorrento

Hello beauties! Today I would love to tell you about Sue and Alket’s destination wedding in Sorrento. This fantastic couple got into contact with me in 2016 as they were going to get married in the beautiful Sorrento, in the Amalfi Coast.  It was still quite early, but we started to discuss their preferences and style; then they came in Rome in October and we met in the photographer's office to get to know each other and discuss the details: it was love at the first sight!


Sue and Alket are fantastic, relaxed, always smiling, they trust you letting you know their ideas and asking for your tips. Sue is a very beautiful young woman with Indian origins, she has amazing dark eyes, long thick wavy hair and beautiful silky skin.
We had been in contact during all months before their wedding to exchange ideas and prepare all the details concerning her first bridal look for the morning, her second bridal look for the evening and bridesmaids, relatives and friends’ hair and make up. She had all her family and friends with her to prepare.

I came to Sorrento with my team a day before the wedding and we organised the trial.
We tried hairstyles and make up; the room was full of friends and relatives, and they were smiling, laughing, having fun and telling nice stories to each other. A relaxing evening between girls before the wedding day!

On the wedding day, the weather was great and sunny, the breathtaking view from the Sue's room was very inspiring. There were emotions and a little bit of anxiety, but it is absolutely normal: as I told to Sue, the important thing is to stay relaxed and calm and enjoy the whole thing!

Her first bridal look was a little bit of Great Gatsby style: black eyeliner, a little bit of an accent on her eyes, pinkish lipstick by Mac for her lips and eyelashes. Her bridal hairstyle that she wanted was a soft looking side loose curls hairstyle with some small braids. Then the photographer Daniele came and made us laugh and relax. You may see his beautiful photos here: Daniele Torella → .

Then I helped her with the dress and the shoes and she went to the ceremony. Me and my team had a small relax in the beautiful hotel Mediterraneo → . I must say, a fantastic place as for work, as for ceremonies: it’s spacious, with good cuisine, modern, clean, with a lot of light and fantastic views!

After that, I went to Sue's room, to start her second bridal look for the evening.
A more dramatic eye make up with lots of lashes, fresh and luminous skin and loose beautiful waves for her fantastic long hair. Everything went well, we had a lot of fun! With great positive clients it’s always like this. I’m happy to have done the bridal look for Sue on her special day and wish them lots of happiness!

This what Sue wrote on my FB page:

I don't know how to praise Anna enough! She is absolutely amazing! She really understands the look you are after and takes care and patience to make sure she makes you look absolutely perfect. Anna did my hair and make up for my wedding for both morning and evening and she made me feel so relaxed and confident.

I had so many compliments on how I looked on the day with many saying I looked like a Hollywood star! I certainly felt like one! I knew Anna was for me the minute I saw her website but more so when I met her in person. I couldn't have chosen a better person and really wish she could do my makeup and hair everyday! Thank you so much Anna and team! We ❤ you!

Thank you, Sue, I’m really grateful for these words and to have done my best to make your day more beautiful and special!


Are you looking for a wedding make up artist and bridal hairstylist? Feel free to contact me for any further information!


Love yourself: 12 tips to improve your self-esteem

  Beauty is a sign of intelligence.

  (Andy Warhol)


Hi, beautiful ladies!

Hope you are doing great and feeling gorgeous. I decided to start my article with this beautiful saying of Andy Warhol,that for me means that we CHOOSE to be beautiful.

This time I won’t speak about weddings, long-lasting products, runways or perfect styles.

I’ve been in the industry for over 10 years. Beauty for me is such a relative thing, as I often meet really good looking people who have low self-esteem. Low self-esteem is a cause of all problems in all fields: relations, work, health etc.

I don’t like to write a lot about theory, I’d say I’m really fond of psychology, and it helps me in my work, but all things I’m writing about I first of all practice on myself.

Starting from our childhood nobody teaches us how important is to love ourselves, often our parents tend to criticize us, what we do and what we choose. Nobody taught them these things, that’s why they don’t know how to do it differently. Sometimes they don’t realise how important is to encourage, to reassure, let you do what you want, to make your mistakes and to learn your lessons from them.

As a result a lot of people just don’t know how to develop their self-esteem, especially in the world of Instagram idols, fake all-the-same-‘beauty’ and sex symbols, everybody want to be somebody else, they don’t want to accept themselves, developing their best traits of character and enhancing the most beautiful parts in their appearance.

The world is so beautiful being different, women are so wonderful in their ethnicities, various skin tones and hair types. The most important thing is an appropriate self-esteem that brings inner harmony, smile and happiness. A woman who is self-confident is happy inside, she will never let others treat her badly, she gets magnetic and highly attractive to men. She is very femminine and attracts strong men.

Every time I work with a client, I see her beauty, amazing eye colour, fantastic hair, beautiful smile, long eyelashes, great shape of her nose, gorgeous skin, long gracious neck and wonderful hands, but she… is full of complexes because of previous unpleasant experiences.

That’s way for every make up artist his job must be a vocation – we must be delicate psychologists, mental coaches in some way, always positive people so that after a make up and hair session our clients feel more beautiful, harmonious, flawless and motivated to be happy and positive. They become more motivated to take care of their beauty, to see their personal beautiful features.

High self-esteem underpins every positive experience in your life. It helps you to see the positive in every situation, to cope with adversity and to fully appreciate the good times. In the modern, fast-paced society that we live in, there is always someone or something demanding your time and attention. When you are constantly responding to these requests you are meeting the needs of others. While it is good to help others, this can sometimes happen at the expense of taking time for you. When you do not take time for you, your self-esteem starts to drop. Sadly, many people do not notice their self-esteem declining until they experience some real difficulties.

How to improve your self-esteem:12 useful techniques

1. Say stop to your inner critic.

A good place to start with raising your self-esteem is by learning how to handle and to replace the voice of your own inner critic. We all have an inner critic.

It can spur you on to get things done or to do things to gain acceptance from the people in your life. But at the same time it will drag your self-esteem down. This inner voice whispers or shouts destructive thoughts in your mind. Thoughts like for example:

  • You are lazy and sloppy, now get to work.
  • You aren’t good at your job at all and someone will figure that out and throw you out.
  • You are worse or uglier than your friend/co-worker/partner.

You don’t have to accept this though. There are ways to minimize that critical voice and to replace it with more helpful thoughts. You can change how you view yourself.
One way to do so is simply to say stop whenever the critic pipes up in your mind. You can do this by creating a stop-word or stop-phrase.

As the critic says something – in your mind – shout: STOP!

Or use my favorite: No, no, no, we are not going there!

Or come up with a phrase or word that you like that stops the train of the thought driven by the inner critic.

Then refocus your thoughts to something more constructive. Like planning what you want to eat for dinner or your tactic for the next soccer game.

In the long run it also helps a lot to find better ways to motivate yourself than listening to your inner critic. So let’s move on to that.


2. Use healthier motivation habits.

To make the inner critic less useful for yourself and that voice weaker and at the same time motivate yourself to take action and raise your self-esteem it is certainly helps to have healthy motivation habits.

A few that I have used to replace and fill up much of the place that the inner critic once held in my mind are these:

  • Remind yourself of the benefits. A simple but powerful way to motivate yourself and to keep that motivation up daily is to write down the deeply felt benefits you will get from following this new path or reaching a goal.
    Like for example getting into better shape and having more energy for your kids and the people close to you. Or making more money and through that being able to travel with the love of your life and experience wonderful new things together.
    When your list is done then save it and put it somewhere where you will see it every day. For instance in your workspace or on your fridge.
  • Refocus on doing what YOU really, really like to do. When you really, really like doing something then the motivation to do that thing tends to comes pretty automatically. When you really want something in life then it also becomes easier to push through any inner resistance you feel.
    So if you lose your motivation, ask yourself: Am I doing what I really want to do? If not and if possible, then refocus and start working on that very important thing instead.

After you have used your stop-word or phrase focus on one of these techniques. Over time it will become a habit and your inner critic will pop up a lot less often.


3. Take a 2 minute self-appreciation break.

This is a very simple and fun habit. And if you spend just two minutes on it every day for a month then it can make huge difference.
Here’s what you do: take a deep breath, slow down and ask yourself this question: what are 3 things I can appreciate about myself?

A few examples that have come up when I have used to this exercise are that I:

  • Help quite a few people each day through what I write.
  • Can make people laugh and forget about their troubles.
  • Am very thoughtful and caring when it comes to our cats.

These things don’t have to be big things.

Maybe just that you listened fully for a few minutes to someone who needed it today. That you took a healthy walk or bike ride after work. That you are a caring and kind person in many situations.

These short breaks do not only build self-esteem in the long run but can also turn a negative mood around and reload you with a lot of positive energy again.


4. Write down 3 things in the evening that you can appreciate about yourself.

This is a variation of the habit above and combining the two of them can be extra powerful for two boosts in self-esteem a day. Or you may simply prefer to use this variation at the end of your day when you have some free time for yourself to spare.What you do is to ask yourself the question from the last section:

What are 3 things I can appreciate about myself?

Write down your answers every evening in a journal made out of paper or on your computer/smart phone. A nice extra benefit of writing it down is that after a few weeks you can read through all the answers to get a good self-esteem boost and change in perspective on days when you may need it the most.


5. Do the right thing.

When you do what you deep down think is the right thing to do then you raise and strengthen your self-esteem.

It might be a small thing like getting up from the couch and going to the gym. It could be to be understanding instead of judgmental in a situation. Or to stop feeling sorry for yourself and focus on the opportunities and gratitude for what you actually have.

It is not always easy to do or even to know what the right thing is. But keeping a focus on it and doing it as best you can makes big difference both in the results you get and for how you think about yourself.

One tip that makes it easier to stay consistent with doing the right thing is to try to take a few such actions early in the day. Like, for example, giving someone a compliment, eating a healthy breakfast and working out.

This sets the tone for the rest of your day.


6. Replace the perfectionism.

Few thought habits can be so destructive in daily life as perfectionism.

It can paralyze you from taking action because you become so afraid of not living up to some standard. And so you procrastinate and you do not get the results you want. This will make your self-esteem sink.

Or you take action but are never or very rarely satisfied with what you accomplished and your own performance. And so your opinion and feelings about yourself become more and more negative and your motivation to take action plummets.

How can you overcome perfectionism? A few things that really helped me are:

  • Go for good enough. When you aim for perfection then that usually winds up in a project or a task never being finished. So simply go for good enough instead. Don’t use it as an excuse to slack off, but simply realize that there is something called good enough and when you are there then you are finished.
  • Remember that buying into myths of perfection will hurt you and the people in your life. This simple reminder that life is not like in a movie, a song or a book can be good reality check whenever you are daydreaming of perfection. Because reality can clash with your expectations when they are out of this world and harm or even possibly lead to the end of relationships, jobs, projects and so on.


7. Handle mistakes and failures in a more positive way.

If you go outside of your comfort zone, if you try to accomplish anything that is truly meaningful then you will stumble and fall along the way.

And that is OK. It is normal. It is what people that did something that truly mattered have done throughout all ages. Even if we don’t always hear about it as much as we hear about their successes.

So remember that. And when you stumble try this:

  • Be your own best friend. Instead of beating yourself up, ask yourself: how would my friend/parent support me and help me in this situation? Then do things and talk to yourself like he or she would. It keeps you from falling into a pit of despair and helps you to be more constructive after the first initial pain of a mistake or failure starts to dissipate.
  • Find the upside. Another way to be more constructive in this kind of situation is to focus on optimism and opportunities. So ask yourself: what is one thing I can learn from this? And what is one opportunity I can find in this situation? This will help you to change your viewpoint and hopefully not hit the same bump a little further down the road.


8. Be kinder towards other people.

When you are kinder towards others you tend to treat and think of yourself in a kinder way too. And the way you treat other people is how they tend to treat you in the long run.

So focus on being kind in your daily life.

You can for example:

  • Just be there and listen as you let someone vent.
  • Hold up the door for the next person.
  • Let someone into your lane while driving.
  • Encourage a friend or a family member when they are uncertain or unmotivated.
  • Take a few minutes help someone out in a practical way.

9. Try something new.

When you try something new, when you challenge yourself in a small or bigger way and go outside of your comfort zone, then your opinion of yourself goes up.

You may not have done whatever you did in a spectacular or great way but you at least tried instead of sitting on your hands and doing nothing.

And that is something to appreciate about yourself and it can help you come alive as you get out of a rut.

So go outside of your comfort zone regularly. Don’t expect anything, just tell yourself that you will try something out. And then later on you can do the same thing a few more times and improve your own performance.

And if it feels too scary or uncomfortable then don’t beat yourself up. Take a smaller step forward instead by gently nudging yourself into motion.


10. Stop falling into the comparison trap.

When you compare your life, yourself and what you have to other people’s lives and what they have then you have destructive habit on your hands.

Because you can never win. There is always someone who has more or is better than you at something in the world. There are always people ahead of you.

So replace that habit with something better.

Look at how far you have come so far instead. Compare yourself to yourself. Focus on you. On your results. And on how you can and how you have improved your results. This will both motivate you and raise your self-esteem.


11. Spend more time with supportive people (and less time with destructive people).

Even if you focus on being kinder towards other people (and yourself) and on replacing a perfectionism habit it will be hard to keep your self-esteem up if the most important influences in your life drag it down on a daily or weekly basis.

So make changes in the input you get. Choose to spend less time with people who are nervous perfectionists, unkind or unsupportive of your dreams or goals. And spend more time with positive, uplifting people who have more human and kinder standards and ways of thinking about things.

And think about what you read, listen to and watch too. Spend less time on an internet forum, with reading a magazine or watching a TV-show if you feel it makes you unsure of yourself and if it makes you feel more negatively towards yourself.

Then spend the time you used to spend on this information source on for example reading books, blogs, websites and listening to podcasts that help you and that make you feel good about yourself.


12. Remember the whys of high self-esteem.

What is a simple way to stay consistent with doing something? As mentioned above: to remember the most important reasons why you are doing it.

Doing this and keeping these powerful reasons in mind has done wonders for me. Now I’m a happy, positive and smiling person. I love my job, I value myself, my time, I CHOOSE what does good for me in my life, and I’m grateful for everything.  

I hope it can do the same for you. Everything depends on US, today, now!

Source: Positivityblog